Our early example about Only the Real thing story sparked some reactions from some of our followers. One such reaction was from Alan Doyle, who is a Data Specialist at the NAB’s, Group Data Management team. Alan did our workshop earlier this year and this is his story….
“In 1997, my son Finn was a cute three year old toddler who simply never stopped, from before the dawn, until way past his bed time ! In some ways I envied him – so much energy and such a sunny disposition, and with apparently nothing to worry about except whether his favourite teddy was close by him at all times.
My world was, at least in my eyes, so much more complex and full of worry, with so much to do and not enough time to do it. I was working amazingly long hours, trying to ‘make the right impression’ with my work colleagues, and often went days without seeing Finn, or my beautiful five year old daughter Jessie and my lovely wife Sarah. I loved the precious moments we did spend together, and made a huge effort to spend ‘quality’ time with them, reasoning that I could make up for the lack of ‘quantity’ by trying to do lots of things with the them in the little time we had. Funny how maths equations like that make sense to an adult – pity they don’t ‘add up’ for the children.
One day at breakfast Finn excitedly showed me his latest family portrait in all its primary coloured crayon glory. He was always very artistic, and his drawings were remarkably clear even at three years old. My heart sank when I asked him to tell me all about his wonderful drawing as he bubbled with joy telling me “this is me, and this is Jessie, and this is Mummy !!!” I asked Finn “…..and where is Daddy?” to which he replied “ooops Daddy, I forgot to draw you ! “. I knew immediately what that meant, and I literally came apart at the edges soon afterwards. I had no illusions about what I needed to do……work life balance finally had a real meaning to me. That day, Finn changed my life forever!”












